I don’t know what made me do it.
I was sitting here. I had played some Euchre at Pogo.com. And I had been making some idle blog posts to give the impression that my heart was still successfully distributing blood throughout my body.
The next thing I knew, I’m reading through some old e-mails in my Hotmail account, and looking through some old MSN conversations with people that I haven’t talked to in a long time. People like Blake, StephM, Jamie (Quistis, from LA, not the city), and then I finally got to Sam.
You all remember Sam.
And so I started pouring through all of these old conversations at the beginning of our relationship (which showcase a clearly smitten me that says things more daring and romantic than I could think to say now) and then I drifted towards the end. The sad bitter end.
I started from around the time that I went to university. I followed the path of the conversations. Connected them to corresponding e-mails that had been sitting untouched for a year and a half in my Hotmail account. And I realized that although I fancy myself the gentlemanly type, I was a huge asshole towards Sam in the declining months of our relationship. I don’t know what had come over me, but every single utterance seemed to be laced with mild anger. Every word was barbed or poisoned. It didn’t seem like I said anything that had even a fraction of nicety to it.
It feels as if it wasn’t even me writing, and yet I know it was. And I feel horrible for it. I still have fond memories of when I was dating Sam, and I cannot believe that I ever could have spoken to her the way that I did. I mean…I was a complete and utter asshole. And she did not deserve any of that.
And now, after reading through all of that stuff, I sit here on a Friday night - alone - feeling utterly miserable because I was such a complete and total asshole.
Ugh…I know that I’ve moved on to a different relationship and everything. And Katie is great. Things are still brewing on that front. But there is always a little spark left behind by a first love. And right now, looking at how things fell apart, it feels like I’ve got a weight pulling down everything inside of my chest. I am a bad person…and I can’t help but wonder if I’m going to spiral out of control in this relationship…and maybe all others.
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And now I am crippled by a bout of self-loathing. Super…